Basket of Treasures

Are you a believer of this… A baby during the first 6 months of her life is like a little animal, has no mental capacity in any wise, concerned only with eating, drinking and sleeping, etc?

If you have the time, join me in this…

Below is an extract from [Maria Montessori – Her life and Her work by E. M. Standing]

Montessori presents a surprising picture of an infant who acquires “the whole world” unconsciously; and then passes gradually from the unconscious to conscious.

How is this passage from the unconscious to he conscious accomplished?

It is through movements which follows the path of pleasure and love. When the child begins to move, his absorbent mind has already taken in the world unconsciously. Now, as he starts to move, he becomes conscious.

If you watch a small child of two or even one, he is always manipulating something. This means that – while he is manipulating with his hands, he is bringing into consciousness what his subconscious mind has already taken in before.

It is through this experience of objects in his environment, in the guise of playing, that he goes over again the impressions that he has already taken in with his unconscious mind. It is by means of this “work” – for it is much work as play – that he becomes conscious, and constructs himself.

He develops himself by means of his hands, using them as instruments of human intelligence.”

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Each time I see Jeanne manipulating with things in her hand and bringing them to her mouth, I would think of this passage above…

It has been weeks since I last blog. There were so many things to put down here but I was just so busy shuttling from housework to kids to working on biz… Well, our online biz that you could have heard us talking about is finally going to start. John and I had a pact, that is our biz must start before Jeanne can start having her solids which I am very very eager to start. It was supposed to be yesterday but… postponed again… Poor Jeanne… Sorry dear…

Do stay tune to our new website!

Jeanne turned 6 months old yesterday! She has amazed us with her unique personality and her ability to crawl days before she turned 5 months! Ju started crawling at 6 months old and we already thought he was early.

Jeanne has a very unique set of personality. She knows exactly what she wants and how to ask for it. Daddy’s feet have became her doorbell to press when she wants to be carried. No matter where Daddy is standing, she would crawl to his legs, tap on his toes repeatedly till she is picked up.

We did a same experiment on a few occasions… John, Ju and I would stand in a row with our feet put together and leave Jeanne in a distance away. She never fails to tap on daddy’s feet.

We set up this basket of treasures  for Jeanne according to an activity in How to Raise An Amazing Child the Montessori Way by Tim Seldin. The basket is filled with household items of different materials, temperature, size, weight for her to feel, touch and of course taste!

This is a great activity that had gave us at least 30mins of time to do our work while she is busy exploring her treasures.

Homemade Playdoh Recipe

Saw this piece of work at Montessori By Hand Blog, and I went to get all the materials by the next day.

Ingredients:

4 tablespoons of flour

2 tablespoons of salt

1 dropper of oil

2 tablespoons of Diluted food colouring in water

Instruction:

1. Add Flour, salt and oil into bowl.

2. Add coloured water into mixture using dropper bit by bit as you knead till enough.

Ju watching attentively as daddy shows how.

Ju’s turn to try. He is loving this work.

Father and son’s creations!

Ju : Can we eat this?

Me : Errrrr….. You want to try?

Ju : hahahahah! Ran off….

“People”

Yesterday evening,  we attended our Godson, Isaiah’s full month celebration at Cindy & Damon’s home. Ju and Clare had a really great time playing with Damon’s transformers! Hope they did not dislocate any limbs of Godpa’s collections.. hee

When we return home, Ju took a paper and pen and told me he knows hoe to draw “people”.

Then he goes… “A big body, a head, eyes, nose, and a mouth and legs!”

Me: Where are the hands?

Ju added two lines to show the hands. Then he happily brought it to show John.

We were surprised and impressed with his achievement! Haha! This is the first time he draw a “people” that looks like a “people”!

I look forward to more drawings!

Coffee Session at School (2)

Quote from book “Maria Montessori : Her Life and Her Work”

” Montessori method is based fairly and squarely on the spontaneous activity of the intellect.

It was usually taken for granted that it was not natural for children to work for any length of time without the stimulus of some extraneous motive. They would play continuously for long periods, but work – no! An important part of the teacher’s art, therefore, consisted in knowing how to keep their attention fixed on the matter in hand – sugaring the pills in various ways, which included the use of rewards and punishments.

Montessori’s view of the matter is quite different. If children do not reveal a desire to work spontaneously, the fault lies not in the children but in the manner of presenting the subjects to be studied. She believes that if children are bored, inattentive, uncomprehending, it is because the methods of teaching used present insuperable barriers to the “spontaneous” functioning of the child’s mind.”

Following my blog post last week on “Coffee Session at School” I had been trying to figure out why Julian does not seem to be very interested in learning alphabets and sounds in school and home.

When I was reading this book, the quote is an answer to me. It brought me to see things from another perspective. Not him, but me… Nagging at him to sit still, scolding him to pay attention is going to bring his interest even further away. Can’t expect him to pay attention with no interest too…

Next step… BE POSITIVE!

Hmm.. and explore new ways to bring the subject to him…

She cries… She smiles…

Jeanne is 4 months old today. First 3 months of her life was filled sobbing, crying, wailing, screaming…

Why? I wonder too… she is just so different from Julian comparing between their early life.

I reflected and figured…

During the early days of Ju, there was not much activities around to take my attention away from Ju. I recalled… I could read my book or watch my favourite shows on TV while he was sleeping. Cooking was not a priority at that time. We could easily settle our meals by dining out. Now, I need to cook for the family especially Julian. At that time, housework were basically done on maintenance basis. Now, constant tidying and vacuuming are required with Ju and activities going on at home. At that time, I could carry him, sing with him, play with him, be with him everytime when he is awake. He soothes contentedly by nursing most of the time when he cried. Now, I could not carry or be with Jeanne as much with all the chores to be done and need to settle Ju too. As a result from the time I bonded with Ju, he became a very emotionally secure child… till today he still is. But for Jeanne, it does not seem so.

Because of what I experienced with Ju… I expected handling Jeanne after birth will not be tough.

Reality sets in when Jeanne was born. During the 2 days stay in hospital, I knew it is going to be different. I expected she would nurse to sleep but she rejected nursing when she had enough milk. I expected swaddling would be the solution to sleep but she screamed when being restrained. Nurses from the nursery commented she cries alot more than other babies. Back home, crying is her main activity in the day. Some say she is doing lung workout but I thought it is too much. Even when we carry her upright, lying down, any anti colic position that we knew of, it did not help. Nursing does not attract her either, she cried worse when there was let down. Everyone who had seen her crying commented that she knows what she don’t want and she obviously knows how to protest.

There were times when she would be crying less, that is me carrying her in sling and out of home. We figured she needs visual stimulation outdoors.

At home, I must confess that I did not carry her as and when she cries which is just so constant. I would finish whatever I am doing on hand before I attend to her. Gradually she began to cry herself to sleep sometimes in the day. She also found her lovely fingers which she learned to later soothe herself to sleep. Recently she is beginning to like the idea of nursing to sleep and I am really glad about that. During Ju’s time, I always thought how nice it will be if he does not nurse to sleep. Now I disagree to my own thoughts.

Each time I see her sucking her fingers now, I could not help but relate that she is feeling insecure and stressed and I feel bad about it.

These few weeks she had improved… less cries… More smiles… How sweet it is to see her smiles… I can’t get enough of them…

She smiles when…

She sees me awake in the morning…

She sees handsign of “change” when it’s time for diaper change…

She lies down on the quilt after a long trip outdoor in sling…

We smile at her…

We talk to her…

I am totally humbled by her. God send her to me to teach me what it means by every child is different.

Coffee Session at School

Today there was a coffee session with Ju’s teachers and other parents in school.

A few parents came and approach us and ask is Julian our son. They all said Julian is like the mascot of the school. Whenever they see him, he is always smiling or laughing, and will greet them with good mornings and bye byes… I did not really know how to react to that feedback so I just said, “Oh yes. He is indeed a happy boy and he really loves talking!”

Later on, we got to speak to Ju’s teacher who is in charge of teaching him sounds and numbers. She feedback that she finds it a challenge to work with Ju whenever she needs him to sit and concentrate for sounds. He would always be fidgeting, making noise, talking, tapping things…. At times she would be firm with him and have to use the ultimatum to get his concentration back, that is saying “Ok. If you don’t want to learn, I am not going to waste my time.” Then, Ju will guai guai sit down and concentrate for a good 2 mins!

This is what we experience at home too, and we used the ultimatum quite often too… not a good sign though… Teacher ask us to play silence game with him more consistently at home starting with short duration of time and slowly increasing it.

Hopefully in this one week school holiday, we will be able to work with him to appreciate silence more…

Sometimes I really wonder where his energies come from. I appreciate him being a happy, confident and vocal child, but many times I doubt is this hyperness in him too much… and will he feel miserable from me trying to suppress him from what he wants to do or say…

Mummy Overload

There are times I feel overloaded… with noise…

At this moment…

Jeanne crying her eyes out on the bed…

Ju imagining (under a pile of pillows) shouting “Mummy help! There is an earthquake! Please help me! Help! Help me mummy!”

John bathing…

Me preparing to go out for dinner… This is one of the times when I am not in the right mind to think positively, to smile, to talk, to try coping… I wish I can be deaf and dumb in this moment…

When John finished bathing, he took over Ju and I locked myself in a room to sling Jeanne in and nursed her to sleep.

She finally slept, I cried, John saw my red eyes, Ju asked “Mummy are you tiired?” and I could not talk. John brought Ju out to buy dinner back instead.

Yes I am emotional, I crave for silence at times, I really do…